The Importance of Adult Involvement in Your Youth Ministry

September 1st, 2010
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A recent study by the Search Institute caught my eye and reminded me of an important truth for youth workers. The first line grabbed my attention:

Bonding with a coach, mentor or other trusted adult can make a crucial difference in the way young people thrive in school and life.

Here are a few key quotes from an article in the Erie Times-News discussing the study findings:

  • Teens show more academic achievement and hope for the future if they have positive adult role models in their lives.
  • “‘Caring adults, beyond the immediate family, really do matter for a lot of the outcomes that Americans care about, including school success,’ said Peter Benson, president and chief executive officer of the Search Institute.”
  • “Almost half the teens identified one or more adults as a mentor or someone who ‘really gets’ them. 27 percent mentioned teachers, 11 percent coaches and 8 percent neighbors.”

This is really great stuff, important findings for those of us who work with and lead teenagers. But, it’s only further support for what we already knew.

In 2007, Lifeway Research conducted a study examining the church attendance habits of young adults. It examined the factors that helped students remain active in church as young adults. One of the factors? Meaningful adult relationships:

“Teens who had at least one adult from church make a significant time investment in their lives also were more likely to keep attending church. More of those who stayed in church – by a margin of 46 percent to 28 percent – said five or more adults at church had invested time with them personally and spiritually.”

Need more convincing that adults play a major role in the development (especially the spiritual development) of teenagers? (Probably not, but it’s fun info, anyway.) A study done by Luther Seminary and Southwestern Baptist Seminary examined the faith development of American teenagers. The study found that of the 10-12% of young people identified as those who “never [stopped] engaging in a faith community,” had at least three adult Christian mentors—coaches, employers, etc.—that played important roles in their lives.

So, here’s what we know. Here’s what can’t be denied:
The students in our youth ministries benefit tremendously from meaningful relationships with adults.

What does this mean for us youth workers? Here are a few thoughts:

For Many Of Your Students, You Are That Meaningful Adult

Many teenagers do not have a meaningful relationship with a parent, or coach, or teacher. You may be one of the only meaningful adult relationships that these students have. When you feel pulled in a million different directions, and your batteries are run down, let this realization encourage and empower you. You make a tremendous difference in the lives of your students.

We Can No Longer Neglect To Include, Encourage, And Empower Parents

For too long, too many youth ministries have neglected to see parents as partners, to see families as foundational. How are you increasing parental involvement in your youth ministry? How are you encouraging parents to be disciplers of their teenagers? How are you equipping parents with the knowledge and tools they need to lead their children’s spiritual growth?

Adult Volunteers Are Crucial

Allowing opportunities for your students to develop meaningful relationships with other adults in your church may be one of the most important things you can do to foster spiritual growth in your students. How are you intentional in creating intersections between adults and teenagers in your church?

While their attitudes and mannerisms may sometimes say the opposite, the data is clear: teenagers want and need adult influence in their lives. How can you use your place of influence to help foster these relationship opportunities?

Andy Blanks is the co-founder of youthministry360. Andy has worked in youth ministry for 12 years, almost exclusively writing, designing, and developing curriculum. Andy is a volunteer youth leader with his church’s youth group, leading a small group and speaking and teaching whenever he gets the chance. He is a teacher at heart and loves to challenge teenagers and youth workers alike through his writing and speaking.

Share your thoughts with the youthministry360 community:

  • How have you seen meaningful adult relationships (or the lack thereof) make a difference in the lives of the teenagers in your youth ministry?
  • 7 Responses to “The Importance of Adult Involvement in Your Youth Ministry”

    1. This article touched where I am in this season. But my heart right now is pressing for adult MALES in youth ministry. If the national average attendance in church is 90% women & 10% men…where does that leave the youth ministry? Our teens need to see more adult male influence in youth ministry…ESPECIALLY the teens that don’t have positive adult male influences at home. They need to see that ministry isn’t just a women’s thing. Our male teenagers will grow up going to church but not getting involved in ministry because they never saw an example of it. My prayer is that God will send more male laborers into the harvest!

      • youthministry360 says:

        Pastor Lawson, thanks so much for sharing your thoughts. You are absolutely right: we need more adults modeling what a vibrant faith life looks like. I pray that God lifts up some godly men and women in your church to influence your teenagers.

        Thanks for stopping by. We really value you and the work you do for the Kingdom. –Andy@ym360

    2. Brian says:

      love the line about creating intersections between adults and teenagers in our church. I’m going to work on that.

      Another create point is connecting with parents. That doesn’t just happen on its own. There has to be a deliberate thought out plan to be successful. Besides helping them with their kids it’s a great opportunity for volunteer recruiting.

    3. I’m with Pastor Damien. It seems so natural and easy for women not only to volunteer week to week, but also to take extended time for trips, camps, and retreats. I recently had to really wrestle with taking a new job, one that provided for my family’s needs in a way I wasn’t able to before, but the schedule will take me away from being able to serve as a volunteer as consistently as I (and the kids) have come to expect. It seems like a bummer of a choice to have to make!

      • Hey Andrew…man God knows the intent of your heart. The bible says that a man that doesn’t provide for his family is worse than an unbeliever. But always remember this one thing in every decision you make…there’s 1 thing that God honors above sacrifice, and that’s obedience! Make sure your decision is birthed through prayer & guidance man of God! You never know…God can tell you to take that job & He can make a provision just for you that will allow you time to operate in ministry. Whatever you decide, make double sure you’ve heard from God.

    4. Chris Wesley says:

      Great article, I like the breakdown and emphasis on our relationships with students. The more opportunities we can facilitate for adults to mentor students whether it’s small groups or one on one is essential. I couldn’t agree more when it comes to partnering with parents; however, I think one of the largest obstacles that stand in our way is the intimidation youth workers can feel towards parents. The feeling of “maybe we don’t know what’s best or anything.” haunts us when conflict arises with a parent and can cause the void seen in the relationships between students and parents. I know I’ve found the more time I spend with parents, the more these barriers break down and the more insight I receive into how we can serve them best.

    5. Greg says:

      Great article! Now, how do I get the adults in the church to understand this? Lol.

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